Music has this magical way of making moments stick in our memories. One note and you’re transported — to the aisle, the dance floor, that first big entrance as a married couple. That’s why choosing the right music for your wedding day isn’t just about ticking off a list — it’s about setting the mood, telling your story, and creating unforgettable moments.
At Elms Barn, we’ve seen music transform every part of a wedding day, so here’s your guide to what music you’ll actually need — from morning prep to that final song of the night.
Getting Ready
Vibe: Calm, happy, reflective or a hype moment.
Start your day with a playlist that reflects the kind of energy you want — acoustic love songs for a soft, sentimental mood, or upbeat classics if you’re dancing in your robe with your wedding party. It keeps nerves at bay and creates a beautiful soundtrack to your morning memories.
Guest Arrival
Vibe: Warm, inviting, anticipatory.
As your guests start to arrive light background music fills the space, sets the tone, and avoids that awkward “should we be whispering?” moment. Think string covers, indie acoustic, or soft piano pieces. Or go one step further an hire in a live musician!
Ceremony Entrance
Vibe: Emotional, powerful, unforgettable.
This is your big moment. Choose something that gives you goosebumps — whether it’s a classical piece, an instrumental cover of your favourite song, or a heartfelt piano ballad. Trust your gut. If it makes your chest ache just a little — it’s the one.
Signing the Register
Vibe: Gentle, romantic, ambient.
This usually takes 10–15 minutes, and while your guests are watching (or wondering if they should speak), music fills the space and keeps the moment flowing. You’ll need about 3 songs here — soft, instrumental, and emotional tracks work best.
Ceremony Exit
Vibe: Joyful, upbeat, celebratory!
You’re officially married — it’s time to party! Your exit song should bring smiles, cheers, and maybe even a few dance moves down the aisle. Think feel-good anthems, classics with a twist, or anything that makes your heart race in the best way.
Drinks Reception & Mingling
Vibe: Chill, happy, background buzz.
Live music, acoustic sets, or curated playlists add atmosphere without overpowering conversations. It’s like the heartbeat of your reception — subtle, stylish, and filled with energy.
Wedding Breakfast Entrance
Vibe: Fun, playful, full of personality.
Your first entrance as a married couple deserves a soundtrack that screams “let’s celebrate!” Guests clapping, napkins waving, and a pop anthem or nostalgic hit as you enter makes for an unforgettable start to your meal.
Background During the Meal
Vibe: Relaxed, romantic, smooth.
Keep the vibe soft and sociable — jazz, acoustic covers, or instrumentals. It enhances the experience without competing with conversations.
First Dance
Vibe: Meaningful, personal, just the two of you.
Whether it’s a classic slow dance or a song with a fun twist, pick something that reflects your relationship. You don’t need perfect choreography — just connection. And if you want to add a dip or dramatic twirl? Go for it!
Second Dance
Vibe: High-energy, dance floor starter.
Right after your first dance is the perfect time to invite everyone up. Choose something universally loved — a crowd-pleaser that gets all ages moving. Think Motown, disco, or that nostalgic song no one can resist.
Evening Entertainment
Vibe: 100% you.
Whether you’re going big with an 8-piece band, booking a legendary DJ, or having that unforgettable Oompah band who somehow made Britney Spears sound amazing on a trombone — your evening soundtrack should be exactly what makes you feel alive.
The Last Song
Vibe: Emotional, full-circle, unforgettable.
It’s the grand finale. Choose a song that means something — maybe the one you listened to during your engagement, a nostalgic singalong, or a slow track that lets everyone sway together one last time.
BONUS: Musical Surprises
We’ve seen:
Surprise saxophonists on the dance floor
Singing waiters that wowed the crowd
Flashmob-style bridal party serenades
These unexpected moments are often the most talked about memories from the day — so if you’re tempted, go for it!
Final Thoughts:
Music doesn’t just fill the space — it holds the emotion, enhances the memories, and brings your whole day together. At Elms Barn, we’ve seen first-hand how the right music can make each moment even more magical.
Need help curating a playlist or finding the perfect supplier? Our team is always here to help.
Let’s make your wedding sound just as beautiful as it looks. 💛
Photo by Hannah Bentley